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2010-11-08T04:15:00.000-08:00

Some months or even years after of losing a spouse, a woman may feel ready to enter the dating scene again. It is hard for her at first, but it may also be difficult for the person that she is dating. If you begin dating someone that has lost her spouse, here are some things that you should keep in mind.

1 Take things slow. Let the widow take the lead on how your relationship should progress.

2 Give her space when she needs it. For no apparent reason, a widow may attempt to cool the new relationship. This is the result of her feelings of guilt over dating someone new. Allow her time to deal with these mixed feelings.

3 Be honest about your concerns and feelings. If you feel that she is emotionally unavailable, tell the widow how you feel. Your needs are just as important as hers.

4 Let her know that you are not trying to replace her spouse. A widow often needs to be reassured of the fact that you are not a replacement for her lost loved one.

5 Recommend grief counseling. If the widow seems to be having a hard time letting go of her loved one, refer her to a grief counselor. You can offer to go with her if she needs the extra support.

Pacaran Dunia Maya Tante Jablay

2010-08-24T00:37:00.000-07:00

I was starting my freshman year at the University of California at Davis when I received a message on a social-networking site from a cute guy named Jason. He was my age, lived an hour away, and said he knew an old friend of mine who had suggested we get to know each other. I don't typically read messages from strangers, but there was something about Jason that seemed genuine.

Still, I wanted to make sure he was legit. I hadn't seen or spoken to our mutual friend, Kara (not her real name), in a few years, but nevertheless, I e-mailed her to ask what she thought of the guy. She promised me that he was great. So I wrote to Jason on and off that school year ... but it wasn't anything serious.

That changed during the summer. I wasn't as busy as I had been at school, so I spent hours chatting with Jason online. His parents were divorced like mine, we both played basketball in high school, and he was really into art, which is my major. I'd never talked to a guy who understood me like he did — not to mention, he looked great in his photos. I was falling for him fast.

By the time my sophomore year started, we were writing to each other on MySpace and Facebook and texting each other constantly, but I was dying to talk to him and hear his voice. Every time I suggested it, however, he was too busy. And when we'd arrange to meet, he wouldn't show up. I was disappointed and angry, but he always apologized and had a good explanation. It sounds bizarre now, but I was too head over heels to think rationally ...

When I told my friends about Jason, they were happy for me — until they found out we'd never spoken. They told me to cut off contact, and in my gut, I knew they were right. But I couldn't shake the feeling that he was perfect for me. So I hid our relationship, skipping parties and slacking on schoolwork so I could spend time with him online. If I did go out with friends, he would ask me why I didn't want to chat and grill me about other guys. I always reassured Jason that I was interested only in him. I was too emotionally dependent on him to risk losing the bond we had.

By December, even my parents were worried. They noticed my grades slipping, and since we have a family cell-phone plan, they saw the outrageous bills resulting from all the texting I was doing. They wanted to know more about Jason. Without my knowing, they did some digging and figured out who the cell number really belonged to. It belonged to Kara.

When my parents broke the news, I felt overwhelmed with disgust ... and embarrassment. I certainly thought about all the things I would say to Kara, but in the end, I decided not to confront her. I'd already had enough drama. So I texted "Jason" and told him I didn't want to talk anymore. Well, Kara went crazy. She texted me 25 times in one hour, asking me to reconsider, and promised to come visit me. It got so bad that I had to change my phone number.

I'm a smart girl, so people ask me how I ever could have fallen for it. I know how strange it sounds, but since Kara knew me and my family history, she understood exactly what to say to manipulate me and play on my emotions. Everything was too intricate and perfect to have been a scam by a stranger ... and I never would have suspected a friend. I'll never know for certain why she did it, but I do think it's possible she was attracted to me. She also may have been lonely and needed someone to talk to, but that doesn't make me any less angry. Looking back, I wish I had listened to my gut. At least I know I'll never ignore it again.

Ngintip Tante Ngentot

2010-05-30T00:44:00.000-07:00

Educating a child about sex is an important part of his or her healthy development. Their early understanding of sex, love, intimacy and their own sexuality can help mold their values, behavior, and even their self-image, for a lifetime. You, as a loving parent (or caregiver), are uniquely qualified to be your child’s first and best teacher.

Educating your child about sex involves much more than explaining how the physical side of sex works. You’ll want your child to understand that emotions, intimacy, moral values, personal responsibility, sexual orientation, gender differences and self-image all play a role in establishing our sexual selves.

Some parents ask...

"Can’t the school take care of it? I don’t want either of us to be embarrassed."

You may be uncomfortable talking about sex with your child. If so, say so. He’ll appreciate your honesty and your admission may even serve as an ice-breaker. Remember, talking about sex should be a running dialogue between you and your child, not an endurance contest for both of you trying to get through “the talk about the birds and the bees.”

Consider what might happen if you leave this responsibility to others:

The school sex-ed program may provide accurate information, but won’t include your personal moral values and insights.

If your child relies on friends for information, it’s likely the information will not be accurate and the advice misguided because your child’s friends lack the maturity and experience of a caring adult.

Movies, television, the Internet, music and books with sexual content may confuse, mislead or upset your child if you’re not there to offer your interpretation.

If your family practices a religion, an explanation from an outside source is unlikely to weave your religious convictions into the discussion.

And the most important reason of all:

Research shows that teens are less likely to have sex at an early age if they feel close to their parents and if their parents clearly communicate their values.1,2

So how do you start the conversation? What's the best age to start talking? What if I don't know all the answers?

Hubungan Panas Tante Girang

2010-05-29T23:21:00.000-07:00

We have all sorts of relationships. The nice neighbors next door. The co-worker who always sends funny cat videos from YouTube. Our family members (even the annoying ones…) and friends.

Having these folks is one of the best parts of our lives.

Most of us also form romantic relationships. Ah, the joy of finding someone new to date; the sizzle and passion of; falling in love and making a commitment, perhaps even for life. Good, good stuff. Hooking up with our sweetie (or our "boo") can give us so much pleasure and happiness. For many of us, intimate relationships also bring a sense of stability and security.

Truly good relationships take time and energy to develop, and should be based on respect and honesty. This is especially important when you decide to date someone. While it’s important that dating partners care for each other, it’s just as important that you take care of yourself!

In a healthy relationship, both partners:

Are treated with kindness and respect

Are honest with each other

Like to spend time together

Take an interest in things that are important to each other

Respect one another’s emotional, physical and limits

Can speak honestly about their feelings

Tante Jablay

2010-05-28T07:37:00.000-07:00

Watch her masturbate

Knowing that you would really enjoy watching her bring herself to orgasm gives her a great deal of power, and she would, of course, love to please you. But, revealing herself like that in front of you is a big step for any gal. If you want her to do this, then sharing your fantasy with her is an excellent way of "suggesting" she actually do it.

A good method to start her off is to prompt her while you are actually having. It is easier if she is facing away from you and her needs stimulating -- take her hand and hold yours over it on her, and then she can set the pace and you follow suite.

After a while, take your hand away. She may or may not keep her hand there, but very gently insist it and be sure to show your extreme appreciation -- she won’t want to spoil your fun! This should develop into her feeling much more comfortable touching herself in front of you, and one day -- maybe -- she will give you the whole shebang. Don’t be forceful, and if she is showing signs and symptoms of being uneasy, don’t push it -- don’t even mention it again, because one day she might just decide to loosen up all by herself.

Watch her with someone else

This is an interesting one, and one she isn’t likely to understand, but neither will she feel threatened by it. It is something she can get her head around -- she is the one with someone else, not you -- and therefore she will probably be interested in exploring it further -- in your imagination, of course. This other person could be a man or a woman -- whatever takes your fancy -- and only involves complete and utter voyeurism.

This actually happening is unlikely unless you really, really, really want to do it, but even then she probably won’t ever agree. It is the sort of thing that may turn a man on rather than a woman, and for this simple fact it's probably not going to ring her bells to any significant degree. Unless you’re both into swinging or other "sharing" activities, watching your girlfriend getting screwed by someone else is highly unlikely to ever happen to you in your lifetime, unless you walk in on her by accident

Six months into the relationship.

2010-04-15T06:52:00.000-07:00

When Ali Sheik met Tori Coxon they knew that they had something. Ali, 33, from south London, and Tori, 27, from north London, hit it off straight away and within a month were seeing each other four or five times a week.

It looked like the perfect relationship apart from one snag - the couple carried on 'seeing' other people for six months into the relationship.

'That is how it is these days,' said Ali, who thinks it is 'unusual' for people to decide they want monogamy within a few weeks. He said that up to the end of the year he had casual encounters with other women and Tori was fine about it.

'It was different with Tori,' he said. 'We would spend time doing things together that we wouldn't do with others - going to restaurants or spending weekends together, having a picnic or going to museums. Quality time.'

Ali and Tori are examples of a new phenomenon taking hold in Britain: young couples who are much more relaxed about concepts of fidelity and monogamy than their parents' generation.

They are the Desperate Housewives generation, They followed the trials, affairs and tribulations of Carrie, Charlotte, Miranda and Samantha, and saw at least part of their lives reflecting a new emotional confusion. For the first six months of a new relationship, it seems, some degree of 'infidelity' is acceptable.

New research has revealed that Ali and Tori are not alone. 'The Infidelity Report' carried out by the Consumer Analysis Group to mark the launch of the film Closer on DVD, revealed that one-third of people think people were made to stray, over three-quarters consider infidelity more common than ever and nearly as many find it increasingly acceptable.

Nearly a third of over 1,000 respondents didn't consider infidelity in a short-term relationship as 'being unfaithful' - a mindset that has been imported from the New York dating scene. There it is becoming more normal to try out multiple partners - sometimes at the same time - before settling on one.

'It is a female response to a male commitment fear,' said Clare McCann, who runs a website to help single women find partners. 'Most women want to be in a relationship from day one but more and more men are trying to get away with [not settling down] so women are adopting the trend of dating more people too.'

Meeting more people has been made possible, added McCann, because of methods such as internet dating and speed dating. 'In the past you had to wait for single people to find you - now you can go out to find them.'

Tori had recently split up with a partner of two years herself and although she essentially began a relationship with Ali, encouraged by friends she 'carried on going out on dates'.

'I think I have seen it in my friends too,' she said. 'Society is changing - there is not such a rush to settle down. Tori admitted she and her friends had been influenced by the American hit which launched a whole new language of multiple affairs, 'toxic bachelors' and the constant hunt for love.

McCann agreed: has encouraged that powerful female who has men at her beck and call.'

Janda Kesepian

2009-04-15T06:57:00.000-07:00

But the new phenomenon comes with a warning. Sherrie Schneider, co-author of the bestselling The Rules, which promises to teach a woman how to get a man and keep him, said she could not imagine a woman truly accepting infidelity.

'Cheating is cheating no matter what it is,' she said. 'It's people who cheat that say human beings aren't meant for monogamous relationships. Every average man or woman wants to be with a partner who will be faithful - a partner they can grow old with. Things like and the City aren't based on reality. It's fiction - your relationship doesn't work if your partner has been unfaithful.'

Tori disagrees. After six months she told Ali that she thought it was time they made a commitment and the pair decided to stop the infidelity. They have been together a year - including the six-month starter - and they are happy and faithful.

'In a way I trust him more,' said Tori. 'He has never lied to me, and I think he would tell me if he did anything. Now that we are more serious I would be furious if he cheated on me.' Ali added that 'technically' the couple had never been unfaithful. 'You have to go behind someone's back for that,' he said.

While many couples are finding it possible to be honest about their flings, the study still found that sneaky indiscretions are on the increase. Mobile phones, email and text messaging were all cited as ways to conduct an affair safely. Work habits were also mentioned, with overtime providing a handy excuse.

However, other modern-day accoutrements had the opposite effect. Credit card bills and itemised phone bills were picked out as convenient ways to catch someone out.

Once caught, there was a disparity on what would constitute cheating. While some said flirty text messages and emails were too much, almost a quarter did not consider a 'lingering kiss' to be an offence, while 12 per cent said you could only be 'unfaithful' if you were married.

Some blame the impact of films and television for people's changing views on commitment. 'There is so much on television - Mary Whitehouse would be turning in her grave,' said the psychologist Dr Susan Marchant-Haycox. 'People are influenced by what they see and there is a general moral decline in society today. Look at Celebrity Love Island .'

Marchant added that an increase in infidelity and sharing partners could have a dangerous outcome: 'There has been a huge rise in transmitted diseases - women can render themselves infertile as a result.'

Susan Duffy, 28, certainly subscribes to Marchant-Haycox's view. She met Andrew Charnock, 27 over the internet on UkMatch.com eight months ago and they began dating within a week.

After two months, the couple had moved in together. 'I think once you've made a commitment to somebody,' said Duffy. 'Even if you've just met them - it has be kept. It's infidelity no matter what stage the relationship is in. How long do you think your relationship will last if you're already considering other partners even before you've established your relationship?'

The new rules of dating ... and infidelity

Tante Pengin

2009-04-15T06:53:00.000-07:00

I When asking someone out, make it absolutely clear you are after a date. Otherwise you could end up becoming just friends by accident. And that's no use to anyone.

2 It is OK for girls to ask boys out as long as they obey rule 1. Ambiguous invitations are just flirting.

3 If you have set up a date by text message, call on the day to confirm. It proves you've got guts.

4 But it's OK to call when you know someone won't answer so you can leave a message.

5 When sending emails at work, imagine CC-ing your partner. If he/she wouldn't be amused, you're flirting. Stop it.

6 Text message exchange that goes on throughout the day is definitely flirtation. Otherwise why wouldn't you just speak on the phone? Don't come over all innocent.

7 If you sleep with someone on the first date, don't say: 'I don't normally do this.' Of course you do.

8 Boys - If you actually like someone and then you sleep with them, call them the next day. Otherwise you are a bastard.

9 Girls - If you sleep with someone and he didn't call the next day, he is almost certainly a bastard.

10 If you are not being monogamous you have to tell your partners.

11 If they say that's OK, but that at some stage they would like a monogamous relationship with you they are lying about it being OK at all. They just don't want to lose you.

12 Being drunk is not an excuse for infidelity.

13 Being so drunk you don't remember is still not an excuse, but at least the hangover serves as partial punishment.

14 If you have been seeing someone for more than three months assume it is a monogamous relationship unless otherwise stated.

15 If you have been with someone for more than 15 years assume it is not a monogamous relationship unless otherwise stated.